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Basic Sexual Shadow Work

A Tantric Workbook that can easily be used by women either on their own or in a group.

Totality Therapy

Groups and sessions aimed at the deepening of intimate and sexual presence.


Women’s Awakening

Group work to initiate women into the mysteries of feminine sexual essence.



A free movement practice that supports embodied presence and true sexual aliveness.


  • “Shakti showed me what it means to give myself back to myself… again and again and again.  I feel that there is more of me in me and also more spaciousness for the mystery of life to live through me. Though my relinquishing  of control has been a challenge, I see more and more, that when I do I taste a freedom that is sublime and unlimited, I come home to myself, my heart opens more, I remember at the deepest level, who I really am.”
    Giulia L., Pharma Consultant, South Africa
  • “Shakti is a unique teacher & therapist, deeply gifted & accomplished, an inspired and inspiring fellow human traveler. She embodies the flow, love & compassion of the deep feminine while being fully conscious & strong in her masculine. This is such a rare combination in our unbalanced world... She brings the change the new Earth needs. She will guide you, invite you in a space where you can trust & let go. She will hold you, she will challenge you, she will let you taste unconditional love. I am so grateful to her for my own blossoming into the fullness of who I can be. The journey is ongoing, her support is ever present. If like me you believe and feel there is more to your life than what surrounds you, and you are willing to step into the unknown, look no further, she is the one you've been looking for.”
    Kalyani – Dakini, teacher and intimacy confidante, England
  • "Shakti Malan is the real deal modern-day embodiment of the timeless Shakti-Shiva. Working with Shakti has profoundly deepened my relationship with the inner Beloved--allowing me to open wider and wider still--receiving and relaxing, whilst burning in the fires of Love, Truth, and Beauty. Her teachings are NOT for the faint-hearted. You will be called out to excavate all the stuff you ignore and cling to, then face them one by one, lovingly. In doing so you will reveal that effulgent lightness of Being."
    Marja West, Founder of
  • "This is life changing work. If you want to know who you REALLY are on a deep heart level then this is for you. It was a beautiful journey of shedding old armour and layers to reveal exquisite vulnerability and tenderness in a safe and honoring atmosphere of wonderful women. I experienced profound transformation that shifted old patterns and ideas about who I thought I was, and it brought me to a deep presence and knowing about my true self and taught me how to operate from my heart more than my head. Shakti is an amazing facilitator and a shining inspiration full of love and empathy for the human condition, she planted some treasure in me that I will carry for life and I am so deeply grateful to her for that."
    Sally, London fashion buyer turned African farmer and mom
  • “Working with Shakti Malan has been one of the most powerful experiences in my life – for me as a  woman. It radically facilitated my understanding of the experience of being  woman – Spark of the Divine having a human experience. In my case the Divine Intelligence chose to experience life as a  woman, ME. Once this is understood in the “body of love” – the body of woman, as a deeper feeling of Truth – then a whole new life experience begins, an Ecstatic One. Shakti’s gift to me has been priceless.”
    Valentina, Italian dance choreographer, show director and artist based in Cape Town
  • “Shakti Malan is the embodiment of a great teacher and healer. She utilizes her powerful presence, wisdom, and physical self to enact that which the healee needs to encounter in order to meet and triumph through their conditioning, deprivation, and traumatic imprinting. She brings together in depth knowledge of trauma, the nervous system, somatic processes and a passionate commitment to the evolution of consciousness in her work. I was amazed with her tremendous range of being, from the most soft tender loving nurturer to the most fierce animalistic side. In all the years of my practice and trainings with great teachers in the trauma therapy and somatic psychology field I have not encounter the special qualities I witnessed with Shakti.”
    Serena, Trauma Psychologist, Canada
  • "Since discovering Shakti and completing her facilitator's training in Sexual Awakening for Women, my life, love and relationships have been deeply enriched and enlivened.  It has not always been a light or easy journey - the process of opening into awareness and true feminine essence has involved periods of pain, change and difficult transition.  And yet, as I continue to grow and learn on this path, I am now a more whole, authentic, loving, radiant, empowered woman than I have ever been, and I see and feel this change in me touching and blessing all those I come into contact with - from my children, clients and friends, to my beautiful Beloved."
    Beverley, Tantra teacher and Sexual Awakening for Women facilitator, England
  • "In my perspective, you carry dear Shakti the Feminine divine Presence, I see you as the keeper of the ancient knowledge of sexuality coming from is not because of your personal experience and learning, which helped you to remember,  it is because you embody that sacred wisdom.  I felt the coherence between your teachings and yourself, which is of primordial importance for me.  Your intuition is sharp, I love your outspokenness and your ability to transmit 'thick' subjects on an ironic way, I appreciate so much the way in which you are able to perceive the person behind her personality, the truth of what is hiding inside ( the unconscious ) behind the multiple masks of th ego.  In your techings I felt you Appropriate, Caring and Present as a whole.  You are transparent, simple and profound at the same time.  I felt your heart and your passion for Life with a big L during the first day of your workshop, and most of all I felt your JOY through your laugh.....the child joy inside talking to the child joy of every women around you....."
    Chiara Vitali, healer, architect, mom, Paris
  • "A pioneer in the field of Human consciousness and awakening – Shakti marries her deep knowledge of Anthropology and Human Sexuality towards insights and teachings into the human condition which are forward thinking innovative and inspiring.  There are few instances in life when a teacher of high integrity reliability and genuine concern for the advancement of Human evolution appears, and enables a path which becomes life altering and self-sustaining for so many.  Such has been my experience of Shakti Malan."  
    Paul Abro, dental specialist, Totality Therapy practitioner, musician and artist, Cape Town
  • "Shakti taught me that, true Masculine strength also means the courage to surrender to love, to embrace, to tenderness, to the feminine, to the soft whispers of Mother Earth and all her wisdom and to relax into the heart.  That, the deepest and most loving relationship I will ever have is the one with myself....and once I have realize that, it is a Truth that is worn like a radiant silken mantle.. Only as I outgrow my fear can I handle a woman's tremendous love-energy without running. And only such of me is worthy of my devotional offering in a committed intimacy….and with that I can be able to meet a Woman fully and complete."  
    Thabang Titotti, tour operator and Tantric practitioner, Cape Town

Skywalking together: Reflections on the wedding ceremony

This blog is a continuation of my reflections on the process of getting married – and this blog, about the weekend of our marriage ceremony. As is my style, I will share here as honestly as I can.


Getting dismantled and recreated: Reflections on getting married

In a few days’ time, Aaron and I will be speaking our marriage vows in front of family and community. When we first announced that we are getting married, people asked me to please share my learnings in the process as it unfolds. So here, my reflections to you. Since in the public imagination, wedding is a once-upon-a-time kind of thing, let’s start that way.


The Buck Stops Here: Let’s Put an End to Sexual Shame

According to archeologists, it’s been about 5 000 years now – 5 millennia of patriarchy during we as women have subconsciously believed that our sexuality is shameful. We bit the apple, we listened to the snake, and somehow our desires got everybody thrown out of the Garden of Eden to earn their bread amongst thorns and thistles. We live out the virgin-whore split in ourselves on a daily basis. And we reinforce this split in others. In addition, a shocking amount of women in this world have experienced sexual violation and have – almost without exception – been convinced by the perpetrators that they should be ashamed for what happened, that it was somehow their fault.


Stop Looking Out There: SHE, the Sexual Feminine, Is In Here

So, feminine sexual essence: where do we find the models that express what that is? For how long will we keep believing the version of feminine sexuality sold to us by fashion magazines, Hollywood, the porn industry? When will be stop believing that we can find our sexuality as women by comparing ourselves to other women or trying to meet the sexual expectations of men? The fact of the matter is that SHE – the fully fleshed emanation of feminine sexuality – does not live out there. She is in here – inside your body. But to find her there, you will first have to give up that quest to find her out there. Close the magazines. Put off the TV. Put away the makeup and the dresses. Drop everything. Close your eyes. And return to your naked soul.


Your Sexuality Rises Up From The Earth

There is a basic misunderstanding we have in our world that our sexual energy is something personal and it expresses as a personal orgasm for those who are lucky enough to have the knack of it. Follow me in this guided meditation…